Sin must first be seen before it can be wept for.

"Where there is no sight of sin, there can be no repentance. Many who can spy faults in others see none in themselves. They cry that they have good hearts. Is it not strange that two should live together, and eat and drink together, yet not know each other? Such is the case of a sinner. His body and soul live together, work together, yet he is unacquainted with himself. He knows not his own heart, nor what hell he carries about him. Under a veil a deformed face is hid. Persons are veiled over with ignorance and self-love; therefore they see not what deformed souls they have. The devil does with them as the falconer with the hawk. He blinds them and carries them hooded to hell:

-From the 'Doctrine of Repentance' by Thomas Watson

A bit different from the Self-Esteem just-love-yourself 'gospel' of main stream media, many mainline churches and Oprah?